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You might be starting the money conversation all wrong
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Hi Reader, Here's something I see happening in almost all couples I work with. When one person brings up money out of nowhere, the other person shuts down. Not because they don't care — but because they weren't ready. They feel cornered. And a conversation that starts with one person on the defensive almost never ends well. Here's what changes that. Before you bring up money this week, try this instead: "I'd really love for us to [get out of debt / save up an emergency fund / go on that trip to X]. Can we take a look at the finances together to see if we can make it work? Could we chat about it tomorrow?" That's it. You've given him a reason — something he wants too. You've made it a question, not an announcement. And you've given him time to mentally prepare so he shows up ready instead of defensive. Try it and let me know how it goes. Speak soon, |
Money and Marriage
Hi, I'm Karen. My weekly newsletter is for the wife who wants her and her husband fully in sync on money, so you can build the life together that you've always dreamed of. Join us here.
Hi Reader, Ben and Mathandi had been married for over 13 years when we started working together, and money was the one thing they had never really talked about. Not because they didn't love each other, but because it felt easier to leave it alone. Afterward they told me: “Thank you for helping us get on the same financial page. We are now working together to build a better financial future for our family.” I think about them whenever a wife tells me, “I can't imagine my husband ever opening...
Hi Reader, For years, I had this dream that always made me smile. I wanted to take my family and my husband’s family to a big house over Christmas, where we could all stay together, have long dinners, laugh until our stomachs hurt, and make the kind of memories our kids would remember for years. But I didn’t tell my husband. Not because I didn’t trust him, but because I already knew how conversations about money could go. One of us would get frustrated, the other would go quiet, and before...
Hi Reader, Money is one of the biggest sources of stress in marriage but it doesn't have to be. I've had the privilege of walking alongside Christian couples who have gone from financial tension and frustration to real peace with their money, not because they suddenly made more of it, but because they learned how to approach it together with God's wisdom at the center. That's exactly what I talked about on the Christianity Integrated Podcast. We got into why money is such a hard conversation...